UnBlog Reader Submissions on Judgment

judging“I remember clearly the exact moment I realized that God did not want me to judge His children.

I was driving through Las Vegas, NV and I saw a man sitting on the curb of the street. He had not bathed in many days, his clothes were so dirty, and he held a paper bag with what appeared to be a bottle in it. My initial reaction was not one of unconditional love, but instantly, I felt my heart swell as the thought entered my mind that that man was my brother.

I began to cry for his situation. How blessed I was to have the life I had been given! Instead of judging him, I prayed for him, right then. In that moment that I turned my heart to prayer for this man I did not know, I became a better person. This man I would never see again gave me a great gift that day. He was right where I needed Him to be — no, he was right where God needed him to be so that I could become more the person He needs me to be.

Now, when I see someone doing something I don’t agree with, I try very hard to watch my thoughts. If a negative thought begins to enter my mind, I think “cancel”, and I replace it with either a prayer for them or I change my focus. It also helps me to remember that I am not perfect and that I don’t know what is in another person’s heart. We are all children of our Heavenly Father and He loves us all! He is no respecter of persons.

No matter what a person does, I have learned that I can judge the thing they did as good or bad, but I cannot judge them. It is a lesson I get to learn all the time.”


“There is a freedom that comes with not judging. Your spirit feels lighter. It’s about avoiding negativity, and attracting positive energy and light. I believe that as we ascend the ladder to higher levels, not judging becomes easier, because we have knowledge and experience.”


“‘Judgment’ is always connected to ‘structures’ or ‘forms’ and comes with a host of emotions. It has ruined more relationships, individuals, families, homes, tribes, cultures, business, governments, religions, nations, countries, races, friendships with broken hearts, despair, lies, greed, separation, lust, war, anger, worry, stress and hate than any other characteristic or attribute of the human character! It is poison to the soul! It cunningly damns any individual who embraces it! The only way to get rid of it; is not to use it or engage in it; it is that simple! To be aware of it is the first step of healing, but to give it our energy and obedience is damming.”


About John Pontius

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8 Responses to UnBlog Reader Submissions on Judgment

  1. I needed this. Shared with my family. Thank you for posting.


  2. Orlando Mora says:

    Orlando Mora
    Thank you so much for your beautiful blogs. Since I was a small child I have witnessed judging first-hand and have become an expert in the field. I absolutely love your perspective on the subject and you have once again affected me deeply. Oh, have I thanked you for your awesome blogs! Since I have become a member of the LDS church my life has changed quite dramatically, I might add. And since I have read John’s books my testimony has swelled to gigantic proportions. I have never really enjoyed reading until I was introduced to Visions of Glory and Journey to the Veil. Then my life changed forever. I am proud to say that I have two favorite authors and their names are John and Terri. Okay, back to judging. I am way better today since I have prayed very hard on the subject and have pleaded for help. It seems the Master has once again intervened in my life and helped me to be more loving and less judgmental, and because of blogs like yours I can apply words to many of the things I feel. I sure love the way you think and am not afraid to say I love you.


  3. imatharris says:

    I appreciate this post and it is very timely. I recently was apart of a situation where unfortunately I was on the GIVING end of judging another wrongly. It was a friend that I had never actually met in person, but had helped me so much in terms of coming unto the Lord, getting to know The Lord in a way that I never thought possible. One day, with another person, I got caught up in a conversation about the one other friend who had done so much for me. I began to get concerned and fearful that maybe this other person may not actually have good intentions. In the communication back and forth with this other person, I forgot about all the wonderful and amazing things this person had done for me and for my life in pointing me toward the Lord and began to focus on the fear and that maybe there were ulterior motives of this friend. A few nights later, I realized that I had been very wrong in what I did, what I thought, what I said to the other person. I needed to fix it, I needed to make it right. I sat down and wrote a letter to the other person and let them know that I had been wrong. The Lord has counseled us in the scriptures that we will know a person by their fruits. This friend’s fruits and works were truly good and pure and I let this other person know. I felt horrible for the things I had said and the things that I assumed. I went to the friend and asked for forgiveness for the pain I had caused them. I had caused an enormous amount of hurt and I was so sorry for it. This amazing friend unconditionally forgave me, I almost couldn’t believe it. Honestly, I still don’t believe it sometimes, as I truly struggle with trying to forgive myself. But, it didn’t end there. The words and the judgements of mine were taken without my permission from this other person minus my letter explaining that I had been wrong about the friend and all that I had said and it was used against this friend in another situation a few weeks later, that caused even more extreme pain and heart ache. When I found out, I don’t think I could explain in words the anguish I felt inside knowing I had done this to another. I wasn’t given a chance to defend my words, myself, or even my friend that had wrongly accused in the first place. I know that friend had still forgiven me, but in all that came from those wrongful judgments, I lost an amazing friend from it as we no longer communicate with each other per the friend’s request. It has been one of the most painful lessons I have EVER learned in my entire life, but definitely one that has changed me. Just like that last quote says, “Judgement truly is poison to the soul!” I hope you don’t mind that I share another blog post, but it is one of the most beautiful posts about judging others and I think so many will be able to see the wisdom in the counsel that was shared. http://puretestimonyofchrist.blogspot.com/2014/06/our-judgement-vs-righteous-judgement.html


  4. Jared says:

    Terri, you are your husband’s wife:) beautifully said. I needed to hear this message. “Attract positive energy and all the attendant freeing beautiful emotions that could be mine through not judging…. Cancel and replace” love it! Gratitude— Jared

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  5. Kirsten Arroyo says:

    Thank you for posting this

    Sent from my iPad



  6. bob putman says:

    after a situation this weekend with a family member, i needed to hear this, i had already turned to prayer, but this reinforces my thoughts, i’m still very sad as to how the other member decided to act but i shall always keep praying for there benefit., thank you, i so love this place. its one of goodness, it helps us to stay on the narrow path.


  7. Sharon says:

    Sound advice


  8. The current-day philosophy that we shouldn’t judge anyone or anything is disturbing to me and, I believe, teaches false doctrine. In fact, our Savior has instructed us to “judge righteously”.

    Doctrine and Covenants 11:12
    12 And now, verily, verily, I say unto thee, put your trust in that Spirit which leadeth to do good—yea, to do justly, to walk humbly, to judge righteously; and this is my Spirit.

    Alma 41:14
    14 Therefore, my son, see that you are merciful unto your brethren; deal justly, judge righteously, and do good continually; and if ye do all these things then shall ye receive your reward; yea, ye shall have mercy restored unto you again; ye shall have justice restored unto you again; ye shall have a righteous judgment restored unto you again; and ye shall have good rewarded unto you again.

    Alma 50:39
    39 Behold, it came to pass that the son of Nephihah was appointed to fill the judgment-seat, in the stead of his father; yea, he was appointed chief judge and governor over the people, with an oath and sacred ordinance to judge righteously, and to keep the peace and the freedom of the people, and to grant unto them their sacred privileges to worship the Lord their God, yea, to support and maintain the cause of God all his days, and to bring the wicked to justice according to their crime.

    In addition, I recently attended a wonderful Institute class on the Book of Mormon where we reviewed the following passages which indicate that not only MUST we judge, but we are taught HOW to do it and WHY we’re given the privilege.

    With that said, we are also commanded to love God, others and even our enemies.

    Moroni 7: 14-18:
    14. Wherefore, take heed, my beloved brethren, that ye do not judge that which is evil to be of God, or that which is good and of God to be of the devil.
    15. For behold, my brethren, it is given unto you to judge, that ye may know good from evil; and the way to judge is as plain, that ye may know with a perfect knowledge, as the daylight is from the dark night.
    16. For behold, the Spirit of Christ is given to every man that he may know good from evil; wherefore, I show unto you the way to judge; for everything which inviteth to do good, and to persuade to believe in Christ, is sent forth by the power and gift of Christ; wherefore, ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of God.
    17. But whatsoever thing persuadeth men to do evil, and believe not in Christ, and deny him, and serve not God, then ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of the devil; for after this manner doth the devil work, for he persuadeth no man to do good, no, not one; neither do his angels, neither do they who subject themselves unto him.
    18. And now, my brethren, seeing that ye know the light by which ye may judge, which light is the light of Christ, see that ye do not judge wrongfully; for with the same judgment which ye judge ye shall also be judged.


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